10 Ways to Love

Hello ladies!

A few months ago, I found an item on Pinterest about 10 Ways to Love from the Bible. I wrote them in my journal and made a poster of them for my room. If you can follow them, then you will have true love, whether with friends or with a boyfriend. I want to share them with you ladies as well.

 1. Love without Interrupting (Proverbs 18:13)

"He that answereth a matter before he knoweth it, it is folly and shame unto him."

2. Speak without Accusing (James 1:19)

"...let every man be slow to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath."

3. Give without Sparing (Proverbs 21:26)

"He coveteth greedily all day long: but the righteous giveth and spareth not."

4. Pray without Ceasing (Colossians 1:9)

"...since the day we heard it, do not cease to pray for you."

5. Answer without Arguing (Proverbs 17:1)

"Better is a dry morsel, and quietness therewith, than an house full of strife."

6. Share without Pretending (Ephesians 4:15)

"...speaking the truth in love, may grow up into him in all things."

7. Enjoy without Complaint (Philippians 2:14)

"Do all things without murmurings or disputings."

8. Trust without Wavering (I Corithians 13:7)

"Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things."

9. Forgive without Punishing (Colossians 3:13)

"Forebearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye."

10. Promise without Forgetting (Proverbs 13:12)

"Hope deferreth maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is the tree of life."

These ways to love can be applied to any relationship you have whether with family, friends, or a boy. The Bible is the book of love because it has the greatest love story ever told when God gave his son to be the recompense for our sins.

Love without interrupting. Listen completely when they are speaking, and do not judge them.

Speak without accusing. Do not accuse someone of something when you have only heard information from a third party. Talk one on one with the person involved, and be “slow to speak”. This means to not lash out at the person and say something you do not mean.

Give without sparing. Do what you can for others around you. When they ask for help, be there for them. When they seem down, cheer them up. When your friends need you, do not blow them off for someone else. Friends are the most important thing in your life as you grow up, not boyfriends.

Pray without ceasing. When you love someone, you want the best for them. Pray for them every day. Pray for their safety, their life and the decisions that they make. Pray they will always put God first, or pray that they will turn to God.

Answer without arguing. For some, this is the hardest one. When you get made, it is extremely hard to not open your mouth and just “let someone have it.” When you find out something that hurts you, the first thing you want to do is yell back. This is not the way to react though.

Share without pretending. Do not pretend like you like someone to their face and then turn around and talk bad about them when they are not around. This is something that all girls seem to do, especially in high school. No, you will not get along with everyone, and not everyone will like you no matter what you do. Speak the truth; do not pretend to be someone you are not. You will have true friends this way.

Enjoy without complaint. Enjoy life. Even if things are not going exactly the way you wanted them to.

Trust without wavering. If you can trust God with everything in your life, then it will be easier to trust those He places in your life. There will always be those people that tell you one thing, but do another.

Forgive without punishing. The best thing you can do for yourself and for someone in your life is to forgive and forget. God forgave us and our sins are as far removed as the east from the west. We should forgive someone and not hold it over their head that they messed up. Everyone makes mistakes.

Promise without forgetting. Ever had that moment where someone promised you something, but didn’t follow through on it? Does it crush you? It does me. If you promise someone something, then do it. If it’s possible that it won’t happen, then tell them that. Never promise something that you cannot follow through on.

In applying this to my own life, there is this person that I love. They at one point meant everything to me, but turned away from God. Some of the things they are now involved in isn’t good at all. I will not share the details, but I pray for them daily. Pray that they would be safe. Another thing that is always difficult is to answer without arguing. I am one of the most stubborn people you will ever meet. When I get mad, I have a tendency to just fuss and fight with the person. I am trying to get better about that. There is another verse that I just thought of. It says: A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. Proverbs 15:1 When you can answer in a nice manner, then the other person will be more likely to calm down. Girls, when you want to fight with your friends, boyfriend, or parents, remember that if you can answer them in a calmer manner than the whole conversation can go more smoothly. It can also save some heartache from occurring from a fight. One more thing I want to touch on is the promise without forgetting. I had someone very close to me; promise me many things in life. None were fulfilled. I felt as though I had been lied to and I became very discouraged about certain things in life. I now know what it feels like for someone to completely break their promise, and I try to not promise something unless I know it is something that I can follow through on easily. I do not want to cause someone the same heartache that I felt.

Remember ladies, follow these ways to love. They come straight from the Bible which is the greatest book of love.

And I love you all!